This is what I feel I should be wearing across my forhead during this whole process....a big fat warning label. Warning: I'm going through IVF - Warning: I could burst into tears at any minute - Warning: if you tell me you're pregnant and I don't look happy, deep down inside (gotta look deep...keep going) I really am. For the people that do know you are struggling to have a family, why must they feel they need to comment. We've all experienced it and I won't go into the different idiotic statements - as I'm pretty sure you've heard at least one today! :)
I will mention one, that literally had me in stitches....I read this one on a forum (fertilitycommunity.com which is AMAZING) this one girl posted how she was told to keep socks on. Oh that's right, you read it correctly - keep your socks on. It helps with blood flow to the uterus to help things stick....again, laughing hysterically at my desk. So me, being the wise ass that I am, responded and said she should have asked if they had to be wool or would cotton do....honest to the Lord above people! Socks? REALLY????? Anywho.....back to my warning label....as I was waiting in the dentist's office - I see this father and his little girl (probably 9-10 months) on his shoulders and he's walking through the parking lot looking ever so happy - THIS is wear a warning label would work - warning: going to cry hysterically in your waiting room as I wish to see this with my husband and child. Luckily for all those who were in the room with me, they called my name!
We are getting closer and closer to the big day - Friday's blood work determines if Lupron shots start on Saturday. I get all giddy and excited at thinking we are so close to starting and then Ruby Realist shows up: you are really excited to wake up at 5:30 am every day to jab yourself with a needle (wake up at 5 for work during the week - best time for me to give shots) - you are really excited to pump your system full of meds - you are really excited to have to get your blood taken nearly every other day - you are really excited to have the internal ultra sounds - you are really excited to have your ovaries so swollen that it hurts to lay on your stomach/to even work out......to you, Ms. Ruby Realist, I say YES! YES I AM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sing like no one is listening...Dance like no one is watching...Live today like it is your last...
Hiya! I'm found your blog from fertilitycommunity. :)
ReplyDeleteI just want to say GOOD LUCK and send you TONS of baby dust for your upcoming cycle! :)
And - of all the comments I've gotten (every infertile will get almost every standard comment at one point or another)...the worst was from a friend that literally told me "Just stop wanting it so badly and it will happen!" like it's my fault for WANTING a family...I changed the subject on her but I so wanted to say "wow, would you tell someone with cancer to stop wanting to be healthy and 'it will happen'?" People are just seriously idiots..yes, even friends and family. lol.
I haven't come across the socks one though! :)
Hi! I found your blog on fertilitycommunity as well! Good Luck!! I am in my 2ww for IVF right now, beta is on Sunday....
ReplyDeleteAfter 3 years of this for us, I am amazed what people tell me. The socks are hysterical! My friend told me that my husband obviously isnt doing his job and getting me to have the big "O" b/c with out I won't get pregnant?!?! Really, thanks. My mother in law recently told me that I was causing her not to be able to enjoy her own daughters pregnacy b/c of "this". So sad how mean people can be. The whole story is under the General Tab called "Monster in Law".... haha!
That sucks to hear your MIL saying those things. Ignorance is bliss right? Pfft...
DeleteCongratulations on being PUPO chica....Live it and love it, without the drama! :)
Bree
Fingers crossed for a great beta!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI read that and almost fell off my chair - I could never imagine having to deal with any of that - bless your heart for not ripping into her!!!